Are you trying to decide whether you should become a stay at home mom? It’s exciting, but can also be a little unsettling to think that you have a little one on the way. And now it’s up to you to decide whether it is the right choice to be a stay at home mom. The whole time that I was pregnant, I contemplated on whether I should stay home or go back to work.
In fact, up until about a month before I had to go back to work was when I decided to let my boss know that I would not be returning.
Here is the thing though. I loved working at the office. I had co-workers that were also my friends and my job was easy-going. But I felt that experiencing the first year of my first-born child was way more important. And let’s be honest here, there are plenty of beneficial reasons that you should be a stay at home mom.
Here are 5 Reasons you should be a stay at home mom
1. Daycare and babysitters are too expensive.
While I was on maternity leave, I searched around for the most affordable daycare. I even looked around for babysitters to come to my home. Mind you, I only made 12 dollars an hour and the closest daycare to my work was charging 10 dollars an hour. I kept thinking, “How could I possibly afford daycare and go to work!?”
I knew that it was pointless for me to work and pay for daycare services. That’s when I realized that I would be working just to pay for someone to spend time with my own baby. It honestly didn’t make any sense. And that was my constant worry because I didn’t have any family available to babysit.
2. You’ll feel comfortable knowing that you are your baby’s main caregiver.
This was the other major reason I decided to become a stay at home mom. You may hear stories of abusive daycare or babysitters. And the thought of someone else caring for my child all day made me feel uneasy. I had major anxieties about whether they would be willing to pay constant attention to my 6 week-old baby or if they would just not pay any attention at all. The other factor about this is maternity leave does not last very long. Just as you are about to go back to work, you’ve established a routine for your newborn and now you have to adjust to a new one.
3. You could potentially save money in the long run.
After my husband and I contemplated on whether I should be a stay at home mom, I realized that I was actually saving money by not working! It oddly makes sense after you factor in the gas mileage, spending money on lunches and snacks, and all of the other little things that add up.
After that came me, I actually felt a huge weight lift off my shoulders. I was fortunate enough to have my husband take over some of my financial payments, for the most part. But I also saved up as much money as I could before I went on my leave and that lasted a good while until tax season. Mind you, I had my baby in September and I started saving as soon as I found out I was pregnant. It wasn’t a whole lot of savings but it sure did help.
4. You might be eligible for government assistance, such as WIC.
With both of my husband’s and my income together, we were not eligible for WIC. But, we were able to qualify after I had quit my job. The thing is that formula is very expensive. In Pennsylvania, it is about 15 dollars for a 12 oz. can of formula. I had never planned to feed my baby formula. I was able to breastfeed for the first 4 months, but things had changed. Breastfeeding became a challenge for me because I could never figure out how to latch her on without a nipple shield. And I was struggling to keep my supply up.
My Lactation Consultant was not very supportive and I also had a c-section. So, it made the learning process of breastfeeding much harder because I was in so much pain.
WIC is an amazing program for new mothers and babies. Even if you are breastfeeding, they still give you the essential nutrients that you need. It even helps you save money on your groceries, so don’t ever feel guilty for receiving money from a beneficial program.
5. You won’t have to miss any special moments when you are a stay-at-home mom.
I ultimately wanted to stay home with my girl whether I could afford it or not. This is my first child and I didn’t want to miss out on any special moments or bonding time with her. I wanted to get to know my child and be the one to soothe her when she cried. It’s a special thing to have carried a living being inside you for 9 months and suddenly getting to know their personality.
Finally, you can decide to become a stay-at-home mom.
Making the decision to be a stay at home mom can be risky financially. But consider the costs and the benefits that come from this major decision. I believe that certain things happen for a reason. Even though it may not happen exactly the way you would have wanted it to, it’s possible for all of it to work out in the end. It just depends on how you can make it work and whether you think it is right for you!
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