When you are a first time mom, it seems like time goes by so quickly. All you want is for everything to slow down. My child finally turned a year old and we just recently celebrated her first birthday. I cannot believe how fast the first year went. I feel like I just had her yesterday and she was just a fragile little thing, lying there in my arms. With all of the chaos of planning and setting up the event, everything worked out pretty smoothly. However, it seems odd to me in a way because sometimes planning does not often work out in my favor. Can you relate? 🙂
First Birthday: Planning Messes
Both parties turned out to be a great time for everyone, even though our cake order from the hubby’s side was messed up. (Yes, we had two birthday parties!) I had put in an order for a few dozen cupcakes and a smash cake early in the week. When my mother-in-law went to pick up the order, there happened to be no order for the smash cake for some reason. Also, the cupcakes were all decorated with Fall colors which were not part of the theme.
Overall, the order was a mess, but they quickly came up with an order for a smash cake that day. It wasn’t my ideal smash cake, but there was nothing else that I could do about it.
The next couple of days go by and I get a call saying that my order is sitting at the bakery. How crazy is that? So, I figured I would take the smash cake and not the cupcakes since my cousin had made cupcakes for the party in Pittsburgh. Once I got to the store, I had told them everything that had happened and they ended up giving me the smash cake for free. I guess they felt terrible for what happened… But the cake turned out better than I had expected.
First Birthday: Activities
As I was rushing to get all of the decorations together, it almost seemed like I couldn’t enjoy myself. There was still so much to do and so little time. This was my first event planned by myself and I must say that it was a hell of a lot of hard work. But I wanted to keep it simple. The only thing that mattered to me was that my daughter and everyone else were having a good time.
As I had expected, my daughter grew tired throughout the day. Too many activities were happening at once and it overwhelmed her. Part of being a mom though is to automatically comfort your little one. But, my daughter is the type of child who is nosy and is a challenge to lay down for a nap sometimes. Even though she has a hard time napping at other places, I made sure I soothed her. From holding her in my carrier to riding her around in the stroller.
It was getting to the point where that was solely my activity for the rest of the evening. My only regret was not having our pack and play at my father’s house for her to nap or play in. But we all learn lessons as we go along with the journey of motherhood.
The Whole Experience
So, what did I get out of this whole experience? Well, the first thing that comes to mind is that you take life as it is. Find the joyous moments that come with it. If you can’t do that, then you may find that you’ll never be happy.
And that sure does go a long way. When I found myself constantly worrying about the little things, it took the fun right out of the whole event. I just need realize that I should relax and have a fun time. And also, to stop trying to be so perfect. I think a lot of us, as first time moms, try and do this repeatedly.
Secondly, parents seem to be doing the whole “go big or go home” experience with their child’s first birthday. While there is nothing wrong with this at all, just remember that this is not all about you. Make it about your baby and your friends and family that took the time out of their own schedule to celebrate with you. This is a special moment that you could easily forget on how to enjoy this time with everyone, even out of all of the chaos.
So tell me, how was your experience with your child’s first birthday? I’d love to hear all about it in the comments down below.