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32 Self Care Activities to Prevent Winter Blues – For the Homebody Mama

Preventing seasonal depression seems like an impossible thing to do, especially when you don't have the time for it. Beat the winter blues by reading this list of self care activities for the mom who loves to stay at home. #selfcare #motherhoodinspiration #seasonaldepression


Preventing seasonal depression seems like an impossible task, especially when you think you don’t have the time for it. But you can beat the winter blues by reading through this list of 32 self care activities for the mom who loves to stay at home. Don’t have the time to read it now? Pin it here for later!

The thought of having the winter blue’s frightens me a little bit. You’re probably thinking that I am being a little dramatic over this. But I’ve had my own personal experience with depression and anxiety. And obviously it isn’t a fun time.

Here’s the reason it scares me.

Two years ago after giving birth, I filled a new role of being a mom and my life had changed forever. Not that this was a bad thing. I love being a stay-at-home mom. But the thought of having a little one to fully depend on me was a scary thought. I didn’t have the self-confidence that I needed, and so, the self-doubt and negative thoughts came forward. And those abnormal thoughts replaced the good ones. Which soon after that, anxiety and sadness followed. This was a scary time for me because I was looking forward to being the best mother that I could be. I was excited to be a mom. But I couldn’t figure out why I wasn’t happy. I figured that maybe it was just too much stress that I was carrying.

Although, I didn’t want to think of my baby being the burden to my own happiness. In this case, it was just me overthinking, over-analyzing things and wondering how I was going to survive this.

Preventing seasonal depression seems like an impossible thing to do, especially when you don't have the time for it. Beat the winter blues by reading this list of self care activities for the mom who loves to stay at home. #selfcare #motherhoodinspiration #seasonaldepression

Preventing seasonal depression seems like an impossible thing to do, especially when you don't have the time for it. Beat the winter blues by reading this list of self care activities for the mom who loves to stay at home. #selfcare #motherhoodinspiration #seasonaldepression

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But when I had my daughter in September, winter came right around the corner and I knew something wasn’t right in my head.

So, the combination of changing hormones and being cooped up inside all day made me realize that I wasn’t doing anything to keep myself mentally strong. I didn’t plan on that happening. Of course, I was too focused on learning how to be a mom.

And the sad reality of this was that I wasn’t enjoying my new life-role that I had taken on. Although I loved my baby, I don’t think I gave myself enough of the love that I so badly needed. And I was too stressed about everything going on in my life that I never made time to focus on my own happiness. I never want to go back to that place again. So, now you probably understand why I am being a little dramatic about this.

My new mantra is to focus on positive affirmations, being happy, and to always have a purpose in life.

I love to focus on the good things. And after making those changes in my life, I can now focus on being a happy mom and embrace motherhood. I look forward to getting up every single day by setting new goals for myself. Whether its for my business or my personal life. So, it’s time to stop focusing so much on the bad things. Because one thing that I’ve learned is that you can always make things work and get through the tough times if you just try a little each day.

This winter, I don’t want the cabin fever to settle in and so far, I’ve been doing well for myself. So, the best way to achieve this personal goal is to create a list of activities for yourself by staying busy, being active, and mentally strong.

Preventing seasonal depression seems like an impossible thing to do, especially when you don't have the time for it. Beat the winter blues by reading this list of self care activities for the mom who loves to stay at home. #selfcare #motherhoodinspiration #seasonaldepression

Here’s your list of 32 self care activities to preventing the winter blues:

1. Have a quiet night after your child goes to bed and read a book.
2. Make a game for you and your child. (Inspirational games)
3. Do a room makeover. Like make a beautiful play room for your child or redo your office.
4. Keep your self care routine in check. Grab my FREE self-care starter workbook today by signing up here.
5. Take up a new indoor hobby and keep learning something new each day.
6. Start writing. Blogging is kind of my therapy.
7. Soak in the tub and listen to music or read a book and have a glass of wine.
8. Make a date night with a friend or your hubby at home.
9. Watch a new movie on Netflix that you’ve been wanting to see.
10. Take an online course.
11. Get amazing food delivered to your door.
12. Jot down things that you’re grateful for.
13. Start an indoor garden
14. Reorganize your closets.
15. Listen to inspirational podcasts
16. Have a cocktail party or a small gathering of close friends and family.
17. Turn on the stereo and play your favorite music or kids music and have a happy dance party.
18. Take up yoga or a new exercise routine.
19. Meditate
20. Window shop online.
21. Message old friends online and send them a positive thought.
22. Write down your own positive thoughts to keep you motivated.
23. Grab a new scented candle that makes your home smell amazing or make your own.
24. Look for inspirational quotes to keep you going through the day.
25. Try a new recipe.
26. Get up extra early.
27. Find some inspirational quotes to live by.
28. Use essential oils for healing and aromatherapy.
29. Write positive things about yourself
30. Spread kindness to each person you interact with whether it be online, over the phone, or in person
31. Make intentional goals for yourself and try to reach them.
32. Write a letter or send a photo to a family member to let them know they’re in your thoughts

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How to Make Soy Candles with Lavender Oils and Dried Flowers

This is a DIY tutorial on how to make soy candles with lavender essential oils and dried lavender flower. DIY your own scented candles today by learning more. #homemadecandles #diyscentedcandles #lavenderessentialoil #allnaturalcandlerecipe

This is a DIY tutorial on how to make soy candles with lavender essential oils and dried lavender flower. If you do not have time to read it now, pin it here to save it for later!

I can’t believe how easy and fun it was to make all-natural essential oil candles. I love all types of candles, but making your own handmade scented candles are the best kind out there. It feels like you are cooking with all of these different ingredients and you get to be creative in experimenting with a new recipe. DIY essential oil candles was something new and exciting for me. I’m surprised at how good these candles smelled after they were handmade. And that was not because I wasn’t sure how they would smell, but rather if they would have enough scent to them. They actually have the perfect amount of scent to each candle that I’ve made.

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How making lavender essential oil candles helps with self care:

I’m at home a lot because I have a two year old, so I try to keep myself busy at times. Crafty projects are my thing. And if you didn’t know, I talk a lot about self care and how it’s so important to take care of yourself mentally. Because being a stay at home mom can be kind of lonely at times.

And taking up a new project is a positive way to exercise your mind and creativity. I’ve done a little research on essential oils. I even have this awesome recipe book that is all about essential oils and aromatherapy. (Grab it here >>https://amzn.to/2TVA35M I’ve used essential oils before as part of my self care routine. But I never really knew how powerful essentials oils can really be when used as a part of your daily living. They can be used for cooking, cleaning, skincare, and mental stress relief.

What is self care?

Self care isn’t just about treating yourself. There’s more to it than just that. It’s about keeping yourself happy, embracing yourself, and manifesting yourself into the person that you want to be through personal growth and self reflection. You can grab my free self care workbook in my freebies library if you sign up here.

Since it was my first time making candles, I was inspired by this post here from Live Simply. I had made a few changes to the recipe but I will show you how to make scented candles with essential oils here on Pretty Crafty.

This is a DIY tutorial on how to make soy candles with lavender essential oils and dried lavender flower. DIY your own scented candles today by learning more. #homemadecandles #diyscentedcandles #lavenderessentialoil #allnaturalcandlerecipe

What you’ll need:

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4 cups Soy wax
1 cup or less of Organic coconut oil
2 candle wicks
Double boiler
2 small jars
40 to 70 drops of lavender essential oils.
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Hot glue gun
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Step 1: Prepare to make soy candles with lavender

This is a DIY tutorial on how to make soy candles with lavender essential oils and dried lavender flower. DIY your own scented candles today by learning more. #homemadecandles #diyscentedcandles #lavenderessentialoil #allnaturalcandlerecipe

After you’ve gathered your ingredients, prep the candle making by scooping out coconut oil and soy wax into a bowl. The coconut oil can be a little tough to scoop out if it’s not at room temp. So I used a butter knife to scoop it out first and then I placed it into a bowl. Remember that you need to only have one cup of coconut oil and 4 cups of soy wax for this recipe. But you can always add more if you need to make more than what this recipe calls for. The only reason I use coconut oil is because I’ve read somewhere that it keeps the soy wax from frosting.

Step 2: Boil water to melt the wax

This is a DIY tutorial on how to make soy candles with lavender essential oils and dried lavender flower. DIY your own scented candles today by learning more. #homemadecandles #diyscentedcandles #lavenderessentialoil #allnaturalcandlerecipe

Bring one cup of water to a boil in a pot and then bring the heat down to a simmer. Once this is completed, then you can place the double boiler into the pot of water and add the wax. Make sure to stir it around.

 

Step 3: Place wick inside the jars

This is a DIY tutorial on how to make soy candles with lavender essential oils and dried lavender flower. DIY your own scented candles today by learning more. #homemadecandles #diyscentedcandles #lavenderessentialoil #allnaturalcandlerecipe

I’ve seen others do this different ways but I decided that it was easiest to use a hot glue gun and glue the wicks to the center inside the jars. The soy wax that I bought online came with wicks and wick placeholders. So once you glue the wicks, place them into the wick placeholders so that they don’t fall over once you pour the wax.

Quick tip: If you don’t have a wick placeholder, you can use a pencil or a clothespin to wrap the wick around it to hold it in place.

Step 4: Add wax to the candle jars

This is a DIY tutorial on how to make soy candles with lavender essential oils and dried lavender flower. DIY your own scented candles today by learning more. #homemadecandles #diyscentedcandles #lavenderessentialoil #allnaturalcandlerecipe

I used these jars that I bought a while ago from target, but you can use anything. Lots of people use mason jars or you can use small bowls. Use anything of your choice that you desire. Then you can slowly pour the melted wax into the jars. I left about 1/4 inch of space from the top of the jar.

Step 5: Add the herbs and essential oils

This is a DIY tutorial on how to make soy candles with lavender essential oils and dried lavender flower. DIY your own scented candles today by learning more. #homemadecandles #diyscentedcandles #lavenderessentialoil #allnaturalcandlerecipe

For this recipe, I kept it simple. I initially used 15 to 20 drops of essential oils on each side of the candle. But you might want to add more than that. I updated this post because I noticed that while burning the candles, the scent was very subtle and not strong enough for my liking. Always test it out though and see what you think. Next, I added lavender flower to the candles and gently stirred. Most of the lavender floated to the top, but I didn’t mind that. You could probably soak the herbs first before adding them into the wax so that they don’t float to the top, but I haven’t tried that yet.

Quick tip: If your jar is more than 4 inches or more in width (depending on the size of wicks) add two wicks 1 inch apart from each other to prevent tunneling when you burn your candles.

Step 6: Let the essential oil candles dry for 24 hours then cut wicks down to an inch.

After I let the candles sit for a day, I cut the wicks down to 1/4 inch. And then you will be ready to burn them and enjoy your new scented candles. Or give them as a gift for the holiday season!

This is a DIY tutorial on how to make soy candles with lavender essential oils and dried lavender flower. DIY your own scented candles today by learning more. #homemadecandles #diyscentedcandles #lavenderessentialoil #allnaturalcandlerecipe

This is a DIY tutorial on how to make soy candles with lavender essential oils and dried lavender flower. DIY your own scented candles today by learning more. #homemadecandles #diyscentedcandles #lavenderessentialoil #allnaturalcandlerecipe

This is a DIY tutorial on how to make soy candles with lavender essential oils and dried lavender flower. DIY your own scented candles today by learning more. #homemadecandles #diyscentedcandles #lavenderessentialoil #allnaturalcandlerecipe

Play around with new ingredients and mix other essential oils to get the scent you want. Once you’ve tried this DIY scented candles recipes, comment below how the candles turned out for you and tell me a little bit about your experience. Here’s a great blog post on tips for maintaining your candles. Don’t forget to grab my FREE self care workbook in the freebies library when you sign up below.

 

 

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A Stay Home Mom’s Guide to Happiness After the Holidays + FREE Self-Care Workbook

A stay home mom's guide to happiness after the holidays discusses little tips and tricks to staying mentally strong and healthy during this winter season.

A stay home mom’s guide to happiness after the holidays discusses little tips and tricks to staying mentally strong and healthy during this winter season. Sometimes I get a little cabin fever if I don’t get outside enough. But I hate being out in the cold. And when you’re stuck inside all day with a toddler, your day can drive you a little nuts. So here’s a little how-to guide to staying sane while being indoors.

I absolutely love this time of year. The holidays always brings out the happiness and joy inside of me. And it always brings our family closer, which I love to spend time with family. But when you’re a stay at home mom, the cabin fever can tend to settle in post-holiday season. And that’s when my seasonal depression and anxiety usually kicks into high gear.

Normally, I don’t mind the cold days as long as they are sunny. But if you live near the western Pennsylvanian area, you can tell the difference in your mood because it’s cloudy just about every day here. I noticed this big difference when I lived in Virginia. Virginia is much sunnier in the winter compared to Pennsylvania. So, I noticed how much happier I was after living in Pennsylvania for a while due to my mood changes. That was over a decade ago, so this has been a repeating cycle for me for many years.

So, I decided to try and break the cycle this time. Because who actually likes to be depressed? I sure don’t. I love to be cozy and sit on the couch with my family. But I hate to sit there and think of all the depressing thoughts that eventually flow through my head after a while. So, it’s important to keep yourself busy and strengthen your mental health after the holiday season. I’m sharing these ideas with you because I don’t want you to suffer either, mama. So keep reading, and be sure to grab my free self-care workbook to help keep you happy and healthy after this holiday season.

A stay home mom's guide to happiness after the holidays discusses little tips and tricks to staying mentally strong and healthy during this winter season. Click through today to learn more. #motherhoodinspiration #simpleliving #happiness #motherhoodtips

A mom’s guide to happiness after the holidays starts with journaling

Keep a diary of inspirational quotes and expand on them. What do they mean to you? Or you can write about how your day went and even what’s been bothering you that day. Journaling always helps me to be inspired and to get off of what’s been on my chest. This also helps you to go back and self reflect on your thoughts and how you’ve changed in the present. Self reflection is always a good task for you to do because it helps you to change your ways or to be the person that you’ve always wanted to be.

I always found journaling to be therapeutic. Even when you don’t go back to read what you write, it really helps to express your feelings. Trust me on this because I’ve experienced it and you always feel like your letting a grudge go. Sometimes I even learn something about myself when this happens. Journaling is a part of a stay-home mom’s guide to happiness because it is self care. And my self-care workbook actually helps you to get started with a couple journaling exercises.

So what’s the takeaway from this?

  1. Expand your mind.
  2. Express your feelings.
  3. Be inspired.
  4. Self-reflect.
  5. Let go of your grudges and learn something new about yourself.

Reading a new book

I’ve always read that successful people read every day and not watch tv. But being successful can mean different things to people whether that is your career or in your personal life. So, whether you are looking for self help or you’re just trying to increase your imagination, make it a goal to keep reading each day. A mom’s guide to happiness is to keep educating yourself.

So, just because you finished high school or graduated college doesn’t mean you shouldn’t have to keep up with today’s trends and cultural changes. I am always curious about the world’s history and current cultural values. But I also love to read books that help me improve my business or that are able to spark my imagination.

Learn something new each day

As mentioned before, you can keep learning by reading a book. But it doesn’t have to stop there. Read the news, or some of your favorite companies that write articles. But if you’re not into being an avid reader then how are you still reading this blog post? …In all seriousness, you can listen to podcasts or whatever floats your boat. Just make it a point to keep learning something new each day. This will keep your mind busy for those days when you’re not able to step out of the house.

Listen to some inspirational podcasts

Speaking of podcasts, find ones that are inspiring and that have value to you. I love to listen to podcasts that are for female entrepreneurs. I take away a lot of information when I get a minute listen to something that helps me to improve myself or my business. But there are also other podcasts that have to do with a mom’s guide to happiness. So, it’s interesting to see what you can find. Happier with Gretchen Rubin’s podcast is a great start to living happy and gaining personal growth.

Keep in check with your self care routine

It’s important to keep in check with with your self care routine if you have one. If you don’t, then you are missing out on bettering yourself mentally and physically. You can keep in check with your self care routine by writing it down in your journal or you can grab my free self care workbook available in the Freebies Library.

Here’s a few ideas for self care:

  • Drink plenty of water and stay hydrated.
  • Soak in the tub with added essentials such as oils or rose petals.
  • Have girls night once a month or date night every week.
  • Every Sunday I like to use this face mask to detoxify my skin. This really helps take the redness away even if you have adult acne. It’s totally worth the money.

Get up an hour or two earlier than you usually do

A mom’s guide to happiness starts with the early bird who gets the worm.This might sound dreadful to you, but it’s actually an amazing feeling when you’re up before your little one. I love to get up early, sip on my coffee, and go over what I need to do for the day. You’re actually most productive when you start your day bright and early. So push yourself to do this at least once a week. In fact, I challenge you to do this and write down how your day went. Were you happier? Did you feel like you got more stuff done? Answer these questions to see how it went for you.

A stay home mom's guide to happiness after the holidays discusses little tips and tricks to staying mentally strong and healthy during this winter season.

A mom’s guide to happiness includes having a small gathering and good food. Like a casual dinner party.

So if you’ve just spent the holidays with a bunch of family and friends, there’s no reason to not have a small gathering after the holidays are over. This really helps to break up your routine and take your mind off of things. It may be a newer kind of stress than you’re used to but prepping for a small gathering is a happy and fun kind of stress to me. And stress doesn’t have to be a bad thing either. There’s always a good kind and a bad kind of stress. So be sure to plan a simple dinner party or even go fancy. Whatever you like to your choosing. Just make sure that you’re having fun while you’re at it.

Here’s a great article on tips to hosting a casual dinner party.

I also always find that when I force myself to go to a gathering or host one myself, that socializing helps to keep my anxiety down on all levels. So definitely give yourself an excuse to break up your routine like this every once in a while.

Lastly, give yourself credit where it is due.

A stay-home mom’s guide to happiness is to always be kind to yourself and give yourself the credit that is so badly needed. You work hard for the kind of life that you want to live, so give yourself a good pat on the back and go eat a bowl of ice cream for goodness sake.

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Toddler Beds are a Waste of Money and Here’s Why.

Toddler beds are a waste of money. Click through to learn why and what you should get instead.
If you’re searching for a new bed to buy for your toddler, then you may be thinking about getting a toddler-sized bed. It makes sense to get a bed that size for your little one, right? They’re small and they don’t need that much space sleep on.  It gradually helps them to adjust to a “big kid” bed. But here’s the thing. If you buy a toddler-size bed. it may be a waste of money in the long run.

Our sleep situation got complicated when my daughter turned two. She rarely slept in her crib because she slept much better in bed with me when she was an infant. But as my daughter got a little older, it was getting harder to sleep with her. She did this thing where she wanted to cuddle right up next to me at night. But she would also get mad if she couldn’t stretch her feet out because I’d be in the way. It was almost impossible to sleep with her at night. In fact, my husband and I always joke about how she is a bully in bed. She would kick and punch me of that sort if something was not contented to her sleep needs.

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It was getting to the point where I was waking up every few hours at night. It felt like I had a newborn again and that was not fun! So I did something about it.
I’m not writing this to deter you from buying a toddler bed. It might be the right size for you and your family because maybe your toddler needs to adjust to a slightly bigger bed. Because maybe they already sleep in their own crib. But my daughter was used to sleeping in our queen-sized bed. So that is where I decided to get a bigger bed for my toddler and here is why.
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She was already used to sleeping in a queen-sized bed.

My daughter slept in our bed every night. I had this feeling that she would hate a toddler-sized bed because she never slept well in her crib. She moves around a lot in her sleep. And when she became more mobile as an infant, she would always wake herself up by hitting herself on the wooden slats of the crib. It became a hassle every night trying to get her to sleep in her own crib when I knew that she slept much better with me.

I had many issues with anxiety.

At that time, I was only worried about the sake of my own sanity. I don’t function well with little sleep so I picked and chose my own battles. Any time my daughter slept in her crib, I always worried about her constantly. So co-sleeping with my little one helped me to sleep better at night knowing that she was safe with me.

Your toddler will have a smaller chance of falling out of bed.

The main reason I bought a bigger bed for my toddler was because I knew that she would have more room to move around in. We had bought a full-size mattress from the link below and it’s surprisingly comfy for the price we got it for. So far, she has not fallen out of bed once. But if you worry about your toddler falling off the bed, then you might consider buying one of these pull-out bed rails to keep them from falling out of bed.
Spa Sensations 8 Inch Spring and Gel Memory Foam Mattress by Zinus, Full 

She will be able to grow into her bed.

This is another factor of why we bought a full-sized bed. I felt that if I were to buy a toddler-sized bed then she would just grow out of it within the next year or two and we would’ve had to spend more money on a new bed. So, financially, it made sense to skip the small bed.Toddler beds are a waste of money. Click through to learn why and what you should get instead.

You can easily switch between your bed and theirs if you don’t want your kid to sleep in your bed.

So, the other reason we were buying a bigger bed is so that I could sleep in it too. I still don’t mind co-sleeping with my daughter, but I wanted to make sure that I had enough room to sleep there too. My husband gets up for work very early in the morning. And we both knew that it was best for her to sleep in her own room so that he wouldn’t wake her in the mornings. She’s a light sleeper. I have to say that it’s nice not having to worry about her sleeping in our bed. She doesn’t mind having her own room and I think she likes it better this way.

So where can you buy a bigger bed without breaking the piggy bank?

If you’re on a budget, you can buy a full-sized mattress as Walmart for under $200. We bought the 8 inch spring mattress with gel-memory foam. (Spa Sensations 8 Inch Spring and Gel Memory Foam Mattress by Zinus, Full) I took my chances with buying a mattress online by checking out the reviews and they were surprisingly positive. After placing the order online, the shipping was free and delivery is only two days. I was pretty happy about that. The bed comes rolled up into a package.

The package was really heavy.

So the downside to this is that the package is very heavy. But it wasn’t so heavy that we needed help. My husband was able to get the package upstairs by himself. The upside to it is that it is very easy to unpack. Cut the plastic open and it immediately blows up into it’s full size. They recommend to wait 48 hours for it to fully conform. But I took it out of the package around noon and my daughter slept in her bed that night.
The other downside to the mattress is there is a smell to it once its open. You can either let it air out in a couple of days or you can buy a waterproof mattress cover below. I recommend that you buy one anyways in case they wet the bed.
DMI Zippered Plastic Mattress Cover Protector, Waterproof, Full Size, White

So, how does your toddler adjust to a new bed?

Overall, my daughter loves her new bed. The first night she slept in it, I got her adjusted by showing her her new bed. You can lay on it, talk to each other, read books, and tell her that this is her new bed and that she will be sleeping here from now on. You can always make it a huge thing for them because toddlers can easily get excited about these kinds of things if you just make it fun for them. This is a big deal for your toddler and I’m sure that it is for you too. It also helps too if you decorate their room and make them realize that this is their space. So make it inviting by using kid-friendly décor. Check out this post I wrote for toddler room decor inspiration.

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Lessons I’ve Learned From My Toddler’s Temper Tantrums

I'm sharing the lessons that I have learned from my toddler's temper tantrums and hopefully this will give you some insight to your toddler's tantrums too.

“May your coffee be stronger than your daughter’s attitude”

I’ve had about 2 or 3 cups of coffee this morning and there is not enough coffee in this world that could be stronger than my toddler’s temper tantrums. I am going to give you the honest truth here and spill the beans. I almost had a breakdown moment with my daughter the other day. The kind of breakdown moment where I felt like giving up and hiding in the bathroom.

It starts with my toddler’s temper tantrums. She’s almost two, and I finally understand the true meaning of the terrible two’s.

Now, I’ve seen some parents writing about how you shouldn’t call it the terrible two’s. “Because our kids are not terrible human beings and blah blah blah…” Well, of course, they aren’t terrible. We, as parents, know for a fact that our kids are not terrible. We love them to death and we would do anything for them, literally. But it’s understandably called the terrible two’s because of those terrifying moments that you have to face when it comes down to disciplining our kids.

The first time I actually felt like a terrible mom…

The other day, we stopped over my in-laws to spend some time with them and the kids. It was a beautiful Sunday. It was hot outside, but nonetheless, it was beautiful because we were spending time together as a family. We talked, laughed, and had the kids in the baby pool just to cool off a bit. My daughter was having such a great time. But I knew she was getting tired. Because she had skipped her nap a couple days in a row due to other family activities.

Mind you, she also went to bed very late the night before. But we’ve already established an early bedtime routine that you can read here.

I'm sharing the lessons that I have learned from my toddler's temper tantrums and hopefully this will give you some insight to your toddler's tantrums too.

I'm sharing the lessons that I have learned from my toddler's temper tantrums and hopefully this will give you some insight to your toddler's tantrums too.

Well, we got some takeout and all of us were having a pizza picnic on the front porch. The baby gate was up and everything was going great. Until I saw my daughter trying to climb over the brick wall to do her own thing.

This turned out to be a disaster because of course, she flipped out while I tried to stop her. As she was refusing to get down, she started whipping her head back and forth. It was becoming too difficult to control her. And she was determined to do what any normal toddler would want to do. So, I sat her down in a chair while she was still having some serious meltdown. It was so serious that when she whipped her head back, she slammed it against the brick wall.

My husband is a worrywart and he was ready to take her to the hospital. But thankfully she was okay. She just had one huge lump on the back of her head.

But right at that moment, I felt like a terrible mom. I didn’t know what to do or how to handle that situation in front of everyone. It was like my mind went truly blank. How do you even handle those types of situations when you’re not at home?

After that chaotic moment passed, I started to notice that my daughter was having all kinds of meltdowns every time I would try to tell her no. I kept brushing it off, thinking that she was just tired or her teeth were coming in. So, that’s why she was acting the way she was. I started making excuses for my toddler’s temper tantrums.

The lessons learned from my toddler’s temper tantrums

Finally, the one day I had had enough. I felt like giving up and hiding in the bathroom. But I couldn’t because, in reality, I was just not facing the hard facts. I needed to face this ugly side of parenting and discipline my daughter. This was the first time I really put her in a timeout and it actually worked. After she was done screaming, I went in to comfort her and I had to tell her that she needed to listen to me when I told her no. That moment there, I felt like a real mom.

I'm sharing the lessons that I have learned from my toddler's temper tantrums and hopefully this will give you some insight to your toddler's tantrums too.

About two years ago when my daughter was a newborn, I couldn’t have imagined disciplining my daughter today. You feel like the only thing you need to do in this world is to comfort them. But now that my daughter is getting older, I’ve realized that sometimes you just have to put your foot down. Otherwise, they are never going to learn those hard lessons.

It wasn’t easy for me to put her in time-out that day. But I was running out of ideas on how to deal with my toddler’s temper tantrums. And she was really pushing me to the limit. You only have so much patience until that timing runs out.

When it comes down to it, there will be some challenges that you have to face when it comes to parenting. It’s not always going to be hugs and kisses. No one wants to deal with that ugly side of parenting. But I’ve realized that I need to embrace my position as a parent.

So even when you feel like giving up, try to take on that moment. See where it takes you so you can get back to those precious moments with your child.

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I'm sharing the lessons that I have learned from my toddler's temper tantrums and hopefully this will give you some insight to your toddler's tantrums too.



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