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Lessons I’ve Learned From My Toddler’s Temper Tantrums

I'm sharing the lessons that I have learned from my toddler's temper tantrums and hopefully this will give you some insight to your toddler's tantrums too.

“May your coffee be stronger than your daughter’s attitude”

I’ve had about 2 or 3 cups of coffee this morning and there is not enough coffee in this world that could be stronger than my toddler’s temper tantrums. I am going to give you the honest truth here and spill the beans. I almost had a breakdown moment with my daughter the other day. The kind of breakdown moment where I felt like giving up and hiding in the bathroom.

It starts with my toddler’s temper tantrums. She’s almost two, and I finally understand the true meaning of the terrible two’s.

Now, I’ve seen some parents writing about how you shouldn’t call it the terrible two’s. “Because our kids are not terrible human beings and blah blah blah…” Well, of course, they aren’t terrible. We, as parents, know for a fact that our kids are not terrible. We love them to death and we would do anything for them, literally. But it’s understandably called the terrible two’s because of those terrifying moments that you have to face when it comes down to disciplining our kids.

The first time I actually felt like a terrible mom…

The other day, we stopped over my in-laws to spend some time with them and the kids. It was a beautiful Sunday. It was hot outside, but nonetheless, it was beautiful because we were spending time together as a family. We talked, laughed, and had the kids in the baby pool just to cool off a bit. My daughter was having such a great time. But I knew she was getting tired. Because she had skipped her nap a couple days in a row due to other family activities.

Mind you, she also went to bed very late the night before. But we’ve already established an early bedtime routine that you can read here.

I'm sharing the lessons that I have learned from my toddler's temper tantrums and hopefully this will give you some insight to your toddler's tantrums too.

I'm sharing the lessons that I have learned from my toddler's temper tantrums and hopefully this will give you some insight to your toddler's tantrums too.

Well, we got some takeout and all of us were having a pizza picnic on the front porch. The baby gate was up and everything was going great. Until I saw my daughter trying to climb over the brick wall to do her own thing.

This turned out to be a disaster because of course, she flipped out while I tried to stop her. As she was refusing to get down, she started whipping her head back and forth. It was becoming too difficult to control her. And she was determined to do what any normal toddler would want to do. So, I sat her down in a chair while she was still having some serious meltdown. It was so serious that when she whipped her head back, she slammed it against the brick wall.

My husband is a worrywart and he was ready to take her to the hospital. But thankfully she was okay. She just had one huge lump on the back of her head.

But right at that moment, I felt like a terrible mom. I didn’t know what to do or how to handle that situation in front of everyone. It was like my mind went truly blank. How do you even handle those types of situations when you’re not at home?

After that chaotic moment passed, I started to notice that my daughter was having all kinds of meltdowns every time I would try to tell her no. I kept brushing it off, thinking that she was just tired or her teeth were coming in. So, that’s why she was acting the way she was. I started making excuses for my toddler’s temper tantrums.

The lessons learned from my toddler’s temper tantrums

Finally, the one day I had had enough. I felt like giving up and hiding in the bathroom. But I couldn’t because, in reality, I was just not facing the hard facts. I needed to face this ugly side of parenting and discipline my daughter. This was the first time I really put her in a timeout and it actually worked. After she was done screaming, I went in to comfort her and I had to tell her that she needed to listen to me when I told her no. That moment there, I felt like a real mom.

I'm sharing the lessons that I have learned from my toddler's temper tantrums and hopefully this will give you some insight to your toddler's tantrums too.

About two years ago when my daughter was a newborn, I couldn’t have imagined disciplining my daughter today. You feel like the only thing you need to do in this world is to comfort them. But now that my daughter is getting older, I’ve realized that sometimes you just have to put your foot down. Otherwise, they are never going to learn those hard lessons.

It wasn’t easy for me to put her in time-out that day. But I was running out of ideas on how to deal with my toddler’s temper tantrums. And she was really pushing me to the limit. You only have so much patience until that timing runs out.

When it comes down to it, there will be some challenges that you have to face when it comes to parenting. It’s not always going to be hugs and kisses. No one wants to deal with that ugly side of parenting. But I’ve realized that I need to embrace my position as a parent.

So even when you feel like giving up, try to take on that moment. See where it takes you so you can get back to those precious moments with your child.

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I'm sharing the lessons that I have learned from my toddler's temper tantrums and hopefully this will give you some insight to your toddler's tantrums too.



18 Summer Bucket List Ideas for 2018

Do you need some inspirational ideas for you summer bucket list this year? Click through to see my top 18 summer bucket list ideas for 2018.

Do you need some inspirational ideas for you summer bucket list this year? Click through to see my top 18 summer bucket list ideas for 2018.

My 2018 summer bucket list is filled with many ideas this year. I have an almost 2-year-old and sometimes its difficult to go anywhere with her. But I am not going to let that stop me from having a fulfilling summer this year. I want to be able to take my daughter places that I know she would love to see. Now that she is a little older, it would be great to get out more often and explore. It’s really fun to see how she reacts to first-time things. I feel I get to know her on a deeper level. And as a mom, I get so excited when there is a learning/teaching moment for the both of us. I want my daughter to see and appreciate things the way that I do.

 As I’ve mentioned in my previous posts, we tend to go hiking whenever we can. Just this summer, we went hiking in the Allegheny National Forest. The scenery is as beautiful each year as always. And the sound of nature is as calming as it always is too.

Do you need some inspirational ideas for you summer bucket list this year? Click through to see my top 18 summer bucket list ideas for 2018.

There is so much to see and there are tons of trails to get lost on. But aside from hiking, there are still a ton of things that I would love to do before the summer is over. The end of summer will be here before you know it, so I will be sharing my 2018 summer bucket list with you. This list is filled with ideas that are for me and my family. But I also included ideas that I wanted to do myself.

2018 Summer Bucket List:

Places to go:
Camping
Kayaking
Petting zoo/Animal farm
Pittsburgh Zoo
Flea market events
Pool
Have a weekend getaway
Get a pedicure
Go to a fair or festival

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Things to do:
Create a new favorite summer drink
Summer reading
Get a new summer look (i.e. haircut and color)
Paint furniture and DIY new projects
Jogging/Walking a few times a week
Catch up with old friends
Host a summer party with friends and family
Have a campfire and make smores
Have a cookout/dinner party

What is on your 2018 summer bucket list? I hope I get to accomplish all of these this year. But next summer, I want to travel a little more and discover new places to see. We are hoping to travel to Colorado or Nashville for our next destination. It would be nice for us to make it a tradition to travel somewhere new each year.



5 Reasons Why You Need More Self-Love as a Mom + FREE Ebook

As a new mom, self-love is important for your own well-being and overall health. Learn more on why you need self-love. Plus, download your FREE E-book today when you join Pretty Crafty and Wanderful.

As a new mom, self-love is important for your own well-being and overall health. Learn more on why you need self-love. Plus, download your FREE E-book today when you join Pretty Crafty and Wanderful.
As a new mom, self-love is important for your own well-being and overall health. Learn more on why you need self-love. Plus, download your FREE E-book today when you join Pretty Crafty and Wanderful.

As a Mom, it’s easy to forget about ourselves when we are so focused on others. Especially when it comes to our babies. But once in a while, we need to treat ourselves with self-love because we need it!

So here are 5 reasons why you need more self-love.

1. Giving yourself more love brings more positivity in your life.

Adding self-love brings more positivity into your life by taking care of yourself first. Although I love being with my daughter, I noticed how unhappy I was by being home all the time. So I started forcing myself to go out more, even if it meant doing it on my own.

One new thing I started trying was jogging every other day. Every time my husband gets home from work, I get myself ready to go out for a jog.My main reason for doing this was not to get in shape or to help myself lose weight but to help me clear my mind. I started to use this to my advantage for self-love and therapy. Once I get out, I just stick my earbuds in and jam to my favorite music.

The first time I started doing this I felt free and happy. It boosted my self-confidence and I wanted more of it. Now I killing two birds with one stone by using outdoor therapy and shaping up my figure. So you can think of it this way. Find something that makes you happy and then force yourself to go out and do it.


2. If you feel like you can’t get it elsewhere, then why not give it to yourself.

Sometimes it is just really hard to explain to others about what or how you are feeling because they might not get it. Talking it out can be helpful in many ways. But sometimes you might have these negative feelings that are hard to subside. Then it becomes difficult to receive enough support to keep those feelings away, such as self-doubt or stress. 

But you should never be afraid to ask for help. I am only saying that when you think you aren’t satisfied with the way that you are feeling, then it is time for bringing out acts of self-love because you deserve it. These acts of self-love are things that are most important and it starts with the most basic. I started eating healthier, drinking more water, and going for walks whenever I can. Even though these are tiny acts of self-love, the foundation of self-love starts with self-care and motivation.

3. Showing self-love contributes to mental health.

From my personal experience, I can tell you that I have come a long way since having my own child. The first year was the absolute hardest for me. Especially when it came to figuring out the new person that I became and the lifestyle change that I needed to adjust to. That first year I had my daughter, I didn’t care about anything else but her. This is totally normal when you are a new mom, but I realized I wasn’t taking care of myself or I didn’t have time to take care of myself. And that needed to change.

I noticed how much happier I felt once I started to read more instead of watching tv. I used to love reading books so I went back that and sort of reverted to my old self. So once you start to force yourself to do these things, whether old or new, you will become your best self by being happy and healthy.

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4. Self-love will only shell out more love to others.

Don’t forget that the more you take care of yourself, mentally and physically, the happier that you will be. And the happier that you are, the more love you will have for yourself and others. Before, I noticed how much I did not want to be around others. I wanted to mostly be at home, I would lash out or get angry at the smallest things, and generally felt moody. I loved and hated being at home all of the time, but it got easier once I forced myself to get out more on my own.

Eventually, I started to love the person that I was becoming and in return I gained more love for others.

5. You will eventually gain more confidence.

Those tiny acts of self-love and kindness made me more confident as a mother and a person. You don’t care anymore about who is judging you whether it is parenting or who you are as a person. Although I am introverted, I became more outgoing, had less anxiety, and loved who I was becoming in the end.

Self-love can be challenging especially if you feel like it’s impossible to accomplish. Because when you’re a new mom, you can only focus on the two people that matter most to you… your husband and your baby. Self-love does not happen in a day and it takes one step at a time. But you can watch yourself grow into the more confident person by writing things down daily.

That is why I haven’t written an e-book just for you. A Mother’s Guide to Self Love teaches you how to overcome the self doubt and stresses that come with motherhood. This e-book also has a free challenge at the end that will keep you motivated and will help you to keep going. You can sign up here to receive your FREE e-book today and you will never have to miss out on FREE content when you join Pretty Crafty and Wanderful.

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Why You Need a Day to Yourself When You are a Stay at Home Mom

 

Let’s just get one thing established here. Being a mom is not easy and sometimes you just need to have a day to yourself. It doesn’t matter whether you are a stay at home mom or work full-time. No matter what you do, you try to be your best during the worst times.

Being a stay at home mom can be challenging some days. You need to have a day to yourself without feeling guilty about it. Click through to learn more.

As a mom, you want what is best for your child and many times we are in doubt because we ask ourselves the same questions. Are we giving our best shot? Are we doing what’s best for our kids?

It’s okay to worry about these things. But sometimes when life can just become too much to handle that is when you know you need a day to yourself. When I found out my grandmother passed away, I wondered how I was going to handle this tragedy while taking care of my daughter. It’s not easy to keep a positive image and I hate to break down or become vulnerable in front of my child.

Even though she is a toddler and has no idea what’s wrong, I always feel the need to stay strong.

Being a stay at home mom can be challenging some days. You need to have a day to yourself without feeling guilty about it. Click through to learn more.

Being a stay at home mom can be challenging some days. You need to have a day to yourself without feeling guilty about it. Click through to learn more.

Being a stay at home mom can be challenging some days. You need to have a day to yourself without feeling guilty about it. Click through to learn more.

That’s why you have to keep yourself busy and have hobbies or a side hustle.

You need to have a day to yourself because it’s not only important for your mental health, but it’s nice to be able to have a break. We spend so much time worrying about others when we really need to take care of ourselves first.

Inspirational ideas on having a day to yourself

1. Retail Therapy

Sometimes when you need a day to yourself, you just need a little retail therapy. It feels good to get some new clothes and switch up your look once in a while. It keeps things interesting when your sick of wearing the same old leggings or sweatpants.

2. Grab a drink with a friend

Let’s face it. As a mom, we never have time to go out with friends anymore. But it’s good to catch up with a friend, hang out, relax, and have a few drinks.

3. Get a new do

I’m the type of girl to let my hair grow and then get something new done to my hair every once in a while. But I love doing something different each time.

Being a stay at home mom can be challenging some days. You need to have a day to yourself without feeling guilty about it. Click through to learn more.

4. Go to a yoga class

I haven’t done this in a while, but it’s definitely on my list of things to do when I have a day to myself. I would love to get up on a Saturday morning and get my day started right with an early morning yoga class. Bonus points if it’s hot yoga.

5. Start a new hobby

I am always interested in learning something new each day. You don’t always have to do something that you are already good at. So think about picking up a new hobby that you think you might be interested in. Last year, I learned a bit or two about outdoor photography. Now I am interested in learning how to draw on my iPad and creating graphics.

So have a day to yourself without having to feel guilty about spending time away from your family. It’s good for the soul, your mind, and your body. And you will feel good about yourself later on. Maybe you will even find a new outlook and start to see yourself differently too.

How to Start Being More Productive and Organized

Procrastination can be an easy thing to fall for when you are a stay at home mom. Learn more about how to start being more productive and organized today!
Procrastination can be an easy thing to fall for when you are a stay at home mom. Learn more about how to start being more productive and organized today!

Procrastination can be an easy thing to fall for when you are a stay at home mom. Learn more about how to start being more productive and organized today!

During the day when you are home by yourself with your toddler, you may feel like you don’t have much time to do anything. But at the same time, you haven’t really done much of anything. And that can be daunting on yourself.

At times you may feel like you are overwhelmed with tasks. And then you put it all off until later when you think you can get to it.

But these things are starting to sound a little bit like procrastination.

The P word can be so unforgiving. Once in a while, I feel like I can be drowning in it. And if you feel like you are the same way then you are not alone. There are lots of people who tend to procrastinate. It’s easy to get distracted by the tv or your cell phone. But the main thing is that you can switch it around by tackling one task at a time.

Procrastination can be an easy thing to fall for when you are a stay at home mom. Learn more about how to start being more productive and organized today!

Start being productive and organized by cutting out the procrastination

If you start to get that overwhelming feeling, then it is time to sit down for a minute. Be more productive and organized by making a checklist of things to do. I like to do this at the start of my week.  For example, maybe you need to pay bills or organize the closets.

Once you’ve made a checklist, grab a planner and write down 1 to 2 most important tasks that you need to get done for each day.

It’s best to start off each task early in the morning so that it gets you in the mood to get things done.

This might sound odd, but I like to leave the dishes in the sink until morning and here is why. And once I do a vigorous activity like this, I feel like I am ready to take on anything for the day. I believe the combination of feeling satisfied and doing an activity like that helps me to wake up and be more active.

But you can start your day off with something else that doesn’t have to do with cleaning. I just like to get that done first-thing because it helps me clear my mind and think of what I have to do that day.

Find another way to stay organized

If you’re not a huge fan of writing things down in a notebook, then use this organizer. I am more productive and organized by using Trello for everything like school, business, and home tasks. You can create a board and within that board, you create lists with cards on them. Below is an example of how I organize my business each week inside Trello.

Procrastination can be an easy thing to fall for when you are a stay at home mom. Learn more about how to start being more productive and organized today!

Each board is like a category for which things you need to get organized.

Procrastination can be an easy thing to fall for when you are a stay at home mom. Learn more about how to start being more productive and organized today!

Always try to keep yourself busy

Lastly, I am always trying to keep myself busy by doing one task after another. Once I finish a task I will think of something else like sort out the laundry.

Here’s a quick tip: Don’t like cleaning? Just put on some of your favorite tunes to make it an easier task. You and your toddler can do little dances with each other to make it even more fun. Sometimes, I like to include my toddler in chores, especially laundry, because it doesn’t hurt to teach them chores early on in their life.

Plus, my daughter thinks it’s fun to do the chores herself. She loves it and she thinks that she’s a big girl doing it all by herself.

But you see, overall, it’s important to keep yourself busy throughout the day. Because at some points, your day goes by so slow that sometimes it can make you feel a little crazy. But by the end of the day, you feel like you’ve accomplished a lot. Plus, you will have more time to do the things that you enjoy.

By being more productive and organized, you can spend more time with your family or dive into a really good book after your little one goes to bed.

You can do those things and not feel so guilty about it the next day. So try it out and see how that works for you. You might also realize afterward how much time you’ve spent wasting away being on your phone or watching tv.

It might even be helpful to list the things that are distracting to you. Block them out by timing yourself so that way you can get more done in a few hours rather than a whole day.

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